Why is it easy to hit certain goals and not others?Are our lives a series of decisions or habits? Why do we sometimes start a goal, say to lose weight, and stop after a few weeks?
Mainly, it’s our automatic habits which makes up to 40 per cent of our day that dictate how we spend them, that make up our lives and consequently how successful, happy and fulfilled we feel.
Habits are different to will power, or even motivation in that there is no emotions around the constant tug of war in our heads around the internal debate of “will I/wont I…go to the gym/resist that brownie/take some ‘me-time”… which can be relentless, frustrating and frankly exhausting.
When we rely on willpower, or motivation, which ebbs and flows, we’re making it much more difficult on ourselves to sustain a positive action or behaviour we want to consistently perform. Hence why a habits which are an automatic action, are key in our day and extremely useful in what we do, and why we do it.
When you create a new habit, you want to consider three aspects:
- the strategies and subsequent action steps you need to take in creating that habit;
- your why, known as your internal motivation to do it;
- and your tendency based on your personality and values which will influence how you approach, implement and perform that habit.
I find by addressing all three of these aspects through the coaching process, it achieves the highest level of long term success.
Let’s break this down. A habit is made up of three parts; the prompt or cue to a behaviour, the ritual of doing it, followed by the third part, the reward.
When we think of habits, we’re usually referring to the ritual, the routine – the middle part of the behaviour change – that we create within that habit. But we also need the appropriate cue or trigger, along with the right reward to enforce it, aligned with our why, our internal motivators and values that will guide us, in the types of habits that we want to develop.
Creating a behaviour change by forming the necessary habits around that behaviour you’re relying on a series of prompts or cues, rituals and routines that are unique and personal to what resonates with you. These aspects should be based on your own personality, personal tendencies and character strengths along with your current lifestyle, which we explore through the coaching process, – they should make sense to you in how you carry out these behaviours, in order to take the necessary action steps for the consistency you need.
This type of approach gives you the often unaddressed part of the iceberg that delivers the step-by-step implementation process supporting your health and wellness.
So how do you address your unconscious thoughts that turn into the emotions you feel influencing your actions and habits?
Here are my Top 3 Tips on Creating Habits for Long Term Health & Wellbeing:
- Get SMART about your GOALS
Getting super specific on WHAT you want to achieve, using the SMART acronym, ( Specific, Measurable, Accurate, Realistic and Timely) will force you to be focused with what exactly you want to be doing long term, how you’ll keep yourself accountable, how realistic your goal is and when you want to achieve it by.
2) GAME TIME
Now that you know exactly what you’re trying to achieve, it’s time to come up with the strategies around each goal, habit or behaviour you want to emulate.
That will mean different things for different people – you might need accountability so you will find it easier to work with a health and wellness coach who will guide and streamline your progress or join an accountability group, or you may be a superstar in the process of researching and learning, or finding a role model to mirror. Whatever the process, it’s game time and experimenting with the approach that works for you is key.
3) TAKE ACTION
Many of us have the goals – we know what we want and even have the plan of what to do, yet we still fail to follow through, especially long term. Why is that? What’s holding us back?
Our unconscious mental triggers, or blocks, are hard to identify and work through and cause us internal conflict, or disparity in what we want. These mental triggers are often unconscious, as they are our ingrained beliefs, the stories we tell ourselves, that hold us back, exhausting us and keeping us stressed and overwhelmed.
When we keep repeating the same behaviours again and again, it stops us from living the life we truly deserve. For example, Sally who came to me, who was really low in energy and suspected she had some sort of Adrenal Fatigue.
Sally was working a high pressure, stressful job and not getting enough sleep prioritising another drink at work functions rather than calling it a night. She was in a constant merry go-round with her weight, decreasing energy and promises to herself that things had to change. The last straw was when she dropped her guard at a catch up with friends and saw the photos on Facebook the following day. She couldn’t belief how exhausted, overweight and unhealthy she looked.
Instead of excuses, Sally needed a better approach to get rid of the internal conflict she was feeling. Sally and I worked together to co-create her vision, identifying her SMART goals and the exact strategies she needed to get there.
Guiding Sally on this journey, she was able to develop the habits around the strategies she needed; in increasing her energy, her nutrition to lose weight and eat consistently well, as well as explore how she could get more life satisfaction looking at her character strengths and coming up with ways in how she could prioritise some self-care and personal development.
If these mental triggers are deep enough, and the internal stress is strong enough, it manifests in a variety of ways such as chronic stress and adrenal fatigue. So when we identify our mental triggers, or the stories we tell ourselves, challenge them and re-write them, that’s when we are empowered to take action – without the mental blocks holding us back.
Your next steps?
Attend my Stress and Adrenals Masterclass – I’ll guide you through the step-by-step process of unlockiing your hidden mental triggers to gain more energy, clarity, vitality and happiness.
If you’re ready to re-set your adrenals and recovery then book your pre-interview to my Fatigue to Flourish Adrenal Fatigue Wellness Coaching Program, where you’ll take the stress out of creating the strategies, habits and action steps you need to your long term recovery, the consistency in healthy, nourishing meals that will support the healing process of your gut and adrenals and re-wire how you deal with the unconscious mental triggers keeping your adrenals stressed and holding you back from true recovery.
About the Author
Anna’s mission is to connect, support and empower people who are stressed, overwhelmed and fatigued to start taking control.”
Anna does this through her Fatigue to Flourish Wellness Coaching program, workshops and online challenges by working together with you to create your powerful vision, in her four key pillars: unlocking your hidden mental triggers to stress, increasing your energy naturally, wholefood nutrition – energy eating like a BOSS and positive emotions – optimising your emotions for deeper engagement, connection and life satisfaction.
Anna’s Fatigue to Flourish Wellness Coaching Program look at your current approach and develop strategies, habits and behaviour change for instant relief from fatigue, overwhelm and frustration whilst regaining energy, vitality and your zest for life.
For more info please visit fatiguetoflourish.com.au